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		<title>SafeGuards 21st Anniversary Celebration!</title>
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<p>University of the Arts-Hamilton Hall<br />
<span dir="ltr" />6 pm—10 pm</p>
<p><span />Heavy Hors D’oeuvres * Silent Auction * Portrait Gallery *   Blackjack/21 Club * LGBTQ Youth Talent Showcase<br />
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<p> call for more info: (215) 985-6873<br />
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		<title>SafeGuards is Moving!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Jun 2010 04:34:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[After July 1, 2010, SafeGuards will be at:  
1700 Market Street, 18th Floor
Philadelphia, PA 19103
(215) 985-6873 (phone).  (215) 732-1252 (fax)]]></description>
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		<title>The Black Book: &#8216;A Brief Fixation&#8217;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 17:15:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It was Tuesday, when I got a call from an ex-boyfriend. He was nearing the typical semester-ending Hell Week at Drexel and needed to drill off some tension after a week of finals...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial">It was Tuesday, when I got a call from an ex-boyfriend. He was nearing the typical semester-ending Hell Week at Drexel and needed to drill off some tension after a week of finals. <strong><span style="font-family: Arial">&#8220;Eric&#8221;</span></strong> was a senior whom I had met three years prior on OkCupid and dated for five months. Unlike most of my failed suitors, I have yet to mock him up in a faux plane crash over the cusp of the Virgin Islands! After the relationship ended, we had an extended tryst. It started off as an invitation to &#8220;just talk&#8221;, which led to a weekend filled with headboard-banging-christening-every-inch-of-his-dorm-room-make-up-sex. By Sunday morning, we figured we could give &#8220;us&#8221; another shot. Three weeks later, we discovered this was a bad idea. Ultimately, with time and gnawing urges, I became Eric&#8217;s post-Hell Week fuck buddy.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial">Casually sleeping with Eric caused me to unravel some oddities about him, more so than when he was my boyfriend. &#8220;I want you to wear that underwear that I like… the purple ones,&#8221; he confessed over the phone with an aroused conviction. Eric indulged in a blossoming affection for my rich array of underwear, which quickly grew into a full-blown fetish. Within a few months, he began to fund my entire fall brief collection, solely for our bedroom extravaganzas. I don&#8217;t know what made me climax more: him or his American Express card. I liked keeping Eric around, and not just for the incentive of cashing in on free AussieBum. Behind the lust and the seven inches, Eric was the closest thing I had to a gentleman. Good guys are impossible to find; so if you meet one that can prepare your favorite blue-and-raspberry pancakes the morning after world-shattering sex, you keep them on standby!</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial">We scheduled for Saturday evening at nine, and I made sure to comply with his request by sporting the purple ones. As I was getting ready, he texted me: &#8220;You&#8217;re lovely, with your smile so warm and your cheeks so soft, there is nothing for me but to love you – Frank. Undress you in an hour, kid.&#8221; Only Eric could somehow manage to quote Sinatra and express his eagerness to rip off my undergarments while still sounding refined. It was a toss-up between endearing and creepy. When I arrived at his place, Eric welcomed me with a slap on the rear and a gesture to hang my jacket. After settling in, downing shots of Bacardi, and making brief conversations about boys and the weather, we quickly made our way to his bedroom.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left">I initiated the undressing by unzipping his pants and to my surprise, he was going commando – quite ironic for an underwear enthusiast. Moments of groping ensued as Eric descended below my torso and to his delight, I was wearing the briefs. He instantly turned into a matador in heat as he proceeded to roll down my underwear while blowing me off. I briefly closed my eyes to bask in the oral foreplay only to then witness Eric wearing my fifteen dollar attire on his head. I knew snickering would&#8217;ve resulted in blue balls. Therefore, I did what any gracious bottom would do: make their man feel like a man. I got on top of him and laid him down as my body language expressed: &#8220;I understand the freak in you. Now, please take me and don&#8217;t go slow.&#8221; Beaming with confidence and a boner to match, he ripped open a Trojan. Round one was finally in commencement – underwear helmet and all.</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left">It was 9:45 in the morning when I woke up. The apartment smelled of blueberries, and I could hear Ross and Rachel breaking up for the second time. I got fresh-faced and joined him in the living room. &#8220;Morning kid, pancakes are on the stove,&#8221; he greeted. (Remind me again why we aren&#8217;t seeing each other?) I fixed myself a plate and joined him in the NBC nostalgia. After an hour of making out, catching up and reminiscing about the good ol&#8217; days; I decided it was time to leave. &#8220;Call me, okay? Let&#8217;s do coffee or something,&#8221; he offered as he walked me towards the door. Before I stepped over the wooden threshold, Sir Briefs-A-Lot had one simple farewell request: &#8220;So, do you think I could borrow the purple ones?&#8221;</p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left">&#8220;Absolutely not,&#8221; I laughed off as I regained all recollection as to why he&#8217;s ex-boyfriend #3. I then headed out and promptly caught a cab. I never did call Eric back. As much as he could whip up appetizing breakfast pastries and charm the pants right off of me, we were two different people. I wanted somebody who liked me for me; not me and what type of colorful underwear that would get them off that night. Our ship has sailed and I was content with that. Why ruin a great rapport? Why ruin great sex? Why ruin great pancakes? A coffee date didn&#8217;t make sense to me. What did make sense was this: he and I will always have fond memories of several post-Hell Weeks together. And, if one day he decides to take that big leap, Eric will make some lucky European underwear model very, very happy.</p>
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<p><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3">This column appears on </font><a href="http://www.phillygaycalendar.com/"><font color="#6495ed" size="3"><strong>www.Phillygaycalendar.com</strong></font></a> </span></font><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"> </span></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /><span class="small1" /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">Angel Hardy is a Philadelphia-based freelance writer and the author of the column &#8220;The Black Book&#8221;. When he&#8217;s not saving the world as a proud employee for über-queer non-profits; Education Justice Coalition/University of Penn and SafeGuards, our pint-size protagonist writes about his personal-accounts with sex, dating, romance and &#8220;love&#8221; within the Philadelphia gayborhood. You can reach him at: <a href="mailto:phillyblackbook@gmail.com"><strong><font color="#6495ed">phillyblackbook@gmail.com</font></strong></a>.</span></font></span></p>
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		<title>The Black Book: &#8216;Latin Sorbet&#8217;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 17:05:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It was my first break-up in about two and a half years, and I was finally coming to terms with some cold hard realities: 1) I was dumbly blinded by the notion of love for far too long and 2) my ex-boyfriend had about as much regard for a gay boy&#8217;s well-being as Jeffrey Dahmer...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial">It was my first break-up in about two and a half years, and I was finally coming to terms with some cold hard realities: 1) I was dumbly blinded by the notion of love for far too long and 2) my ex-boyfriend had about as much regard for a gay boy&#8217;s well-being as Jeffrey Dahmer. The aftermath was dreadful and I was left heartbroken. Then the strangest thing happened to me: I found myself not wanting to mend my wounds by doing the customary post-break-up rituals like, watching <em><span style="font-family: Arial">P.S. I Love You</span></em> and crying myself to sleep, or listening to Alanis Morisette&#8217;s brilliantly-crafted <em><span style="font-family: Arial">Jagged Little Pill</span></em> while burning his house down. Instead, I wanted to handle the situation as reasonably as possible; just like any true testosterone-raging male would. I decided that I was going to get back on the horse – and if he happened to be hung like one, even better.</span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial"> </span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial"></p>
<p align="left">I had to act quickly, so I chucked any emotional remnants I had for my ex into the Schuylkill River . I was a single man again and it was time for me to start living my life as one. My main objective was to engage in rebound sex, but just not any ol&#8217; rebound sex with any ol&#8217; body. This was more than the average fucking, this was palate cleansing, and it required a very special fellow for that. Palate cleansing – or &#8220;rebounding&#8221; in layman&#8217;s terms – is one of the most important phases that every newly-appointed-single person will go through. Your sorbet of choice will become the ultimate palate cleanser for your mental and sexual happiness. Keep in mind, this is NOT a rebound relationship: in fact, you&#8217;re not ready for a relationship. This should be strictly physical. A successful palate cleansing gives you the required distance from your former lover and sets the tone for the next few dates. After all, nobody wants the imprint of their ex&#8217;s dick to be the last impression of somebody hitting the spot down there, and the next guy will appreciate the fact that you&#8217;re no longer weeping in between hookup sessions.</p>
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<p align="left">My sorbet came in Latin flavor, and he arrived a few days after the break-up. I got acquainted with <strong><span style="font-family: Arial">&#8220;Claudio&#8221;</span></strong> while browsing through the online meat district at Starbucks. He messaged me and we immediately clicked in a causal, yet flirty, without being too desperate conversation. We penciled each other in to have a drink or two later within the week. That Thursday evening I met Claudio at 12 th Air Command and without delay, I was already in his bedroom half past ten . As I patiently waited for Claudio to finish lubing up, I laid on the edge of his bed in mid-ponder. &#8220;Are you even ready to have sex?&#8221; I thought. (Daring for a gay man to even ask one&#8217;s self that!) I knew I still had mixed feelings for my ex. However, I also knew how gratifying it would be to finally get rid of him with a guy who was more desirable than he&#8217;d ever be. Before I could riddle myself to death with any further inquiries, Claudio&#8217;s dick was in my face and he made sure I didn&#8217;t have any more hesitations for the night.</p>
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<p align="left">The warmth of Claudio&#8217;s body was solacing as his kisses breathed new life into me. Finally, I was in control again and my baggage – yet momentarily – slipped away. His hands started to travel around my body before he placed them firmly below my waist. I clutched onto him voraciously as he arched his chiseled weight against mine. He took me in deeper, kissing me, reassuring me that I was right where I should be. &#8220;I am going to break you in tonight, little man,&#8221; he playfully smirked. Claudio embodied all the reasons why gay men go to Puerto Rico to have great sex. Lucky for me, I didn&#8217;t have to travel that far. Even luckier, we had weekly rompings, and with rompings came much-needed therapy: Claudio was a shrink, so he knew that his dick couldn&#8217;t cure all of my problems – just most of them.</p>
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<p align="left">I gradually opened up about my past relationship and the more I did, the more I started to heal. There I was letting down my guard to a hot half-naked therapist and the only thing he was prodding now was my emotional state. Claudio&#8217;s analyzing reunited me with my single self and made me realize, I was just as fabulous without my ex. Unfortunately, my sexual shenanigans with Señor Freud came to an amicable halt. I began to explore other options, as he embarked on a new relationship. One lesson the doc left behind was that the art of palate cleansing served more than just a sexual need. The more we engaged in sex, the more therapeutic our pillow talks became. With each break-up, you&#8217;re given the free pass to self-evaluate and re-nurture yourself in order to get it right the next time. So as you&#8217;re wandering in the romantic-rut interim, you might as well pick your choice of sorbet and taste away.</p>
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<p align="left"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3">This column appears on </font><a href="http://www.phillygaycalendar.com/"><font color="#6495ed" size="3"><strong>www.Phillygaycalendar.com</strong></font></a> </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" align="left"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /><span class="small1" /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">Angel Hardy is a Philadelphia-based freelance writer and the author of the column &#8220;The Black Book&#8221;. When he&#8217;s not saving the world as a proud employee for über-queer non-profits; Education Justice Coalition/University of Penn and SafeGuards, our pint-size protagonist writes about his personal-accounts with sex, dating, romance and &#8220;love&#8221; within the Philadelphia gayborhood. You can reach him at: <a href="mailto:phillyblackbook@gmail.com"><strong><font color="#6495ed">phillyblackbook@gmail.com</font></strong></a>.</span></font></span></p>
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		<title>Movie Nite at SafeGuards: &#8220;Equality U&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Feb 2010 14:11:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Join us for a free screening of the documentary &#8220;Equality U.&#8221;  The 2010 Soulforce Equality Ride starts right outside of Philly in Phoenixville, PA...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="left">Join us for a free screening of the documentary &#8220;Equality U.&#8221;  The 2010 Soulforce Equality Ride starts right outside of Philly in Phoenixville, PA. The two month bus trip is starting with a visit to Valley Forge Christian College, and as a &#8220;shout out&#8221; and kick-off we are hosting a screening and discussion led by Equality Riders.  Equality U follows the 2006 Equality Ride and gives an intimate look this the first ride of its kind.</p>
<p align="left">This event is FREE. Doors open at 5:30 and the movie begins at 6pm. Local Equality Riders (including SafeGuards own <strong>Tommy Atz</strong>!) will be present to answer questions and speak about the upcoming events for the March 5th visit to VFCC.  260 S. Broad Street, 10th floor.</p>
<p align="left">Come get your popcorn on!</p>
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		<title>HIV/AIDS Health Workers and &#8220;Gay&#8221; Activists attacked in Kenya</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Kenya govenment has failed to act as mobs try to kill human rights defenders and assault people they suspect are &#8220;gay...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3">The Kenya govenment has failed to act as <span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">mobs try to kill human rights defenders and assault people they suspect are &#8220;gay.&#8221; The overlapping stigmas of HIV/AIDS and homosexuality, inflamed by religious missionaries, are endangering lives and fueling this social and political conflict.  Item below reposted from Human Rights Watch.</span></font></span></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /><font size="3"><font size="3" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span></font><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3">February 17, 2010<br />
(New York) - Kenya&#8217;s government should act quickly to protect people accused of homosexual conduct and groups offering HIV/AIDS services from vigilante attacks, Human Rights Watch said today in a letter to Kenyan authorities.</font></span><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"> </font></span></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><font size="3" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3"><font size="3" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><font size="3" /></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span></font></span></font></span></font><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3" /><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span></font></span></font></span></font></span></font></span></font></span><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"></font><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"></p>
<p align="left">The vigilante violence has hit Mtwapa, a coastal town northeast of Mombasa, in recent days and appears to be spreading to Mombasa and elsewhere. Human Rights Watch called on Kenya&#8217;s government to speak out against the voices that incite hatred and foment the attacks.</p>
<p align="left">&#8220;The government is sitting silent while mobs try to kill human rights defenders and assault people they suspect are gay,&#8221; said Dipika Nath, researcher in the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender (LGBT) rights program at Human Rights Watch. &#8220;Inaction is complicity, and silence can be lethal.&#8221;</p>
<p align="left">In late January, 2010, unsubstantiated rumors about a &#8220;gay wedding&#8221; scheduled for February 12 started circulating in Mtwapa, in Kilifi District. Local and national radio stations picked up the unconfirmed story. On February 7, several imams and muftis (Islamic scholars) told their congregations during Friday prayers to be vigilant and to &#8220;expose&#8221; homosexuals in Mtwapa.<br />
On February 11, Sheikh Ali Hussein of the Council of Imams and Preachers of Kenya and Bishop Lawrence Chai of the National Council of Churches of Kenya held a news conference. As reported by Daily Nation and by other witnesses who have spoken to Human Rights Watch, the two religious leaders demanded an investigation of the Kenya Medical Research Institute (KEMRI), a government health center that provides HIV/AIDS services to the community. They criticized the government for &#8220;providing counselling services to these criminals&#8221; and demanded that the KEMRI office in Mtwapa be shut down, the reports said.
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<p align="left">Local activists told Human Rights Watch that, in a statement after the meeting, the religious leaders promised to &#8220;flush out gays.&#8221; The Daily Nation reported that Chai is the leader of a network called &#8220;Operation Gays Out,&#8221; whose actual numbers and aims are not known.</p>
<p align="left">On February 12, an armed mob of 200 to 300 people surrounded the KEMRI health center. Witnesses told Human Rights Watch that a man called &#8220;Faridi,&#8221; an organizer of the mob, said a KEMRI staff member was homosexual because he wore a T-shirt promoting safer sex. In response, police who were at the scene took him and another KEMRI staffer into custody.<br />
Earlier the same day, Faridi, with police, forcibly entered another private individual&#8217;s home, claiming that the two people in the house were homosexual. Police took the two into custody, too. Local activists have informed Human Rights Watch that none of the men were charged and they have all since been released, and that the police were attempting to protect them from violence by taking them into custody.</p>
<p align="left">The mob beat senseless another man who was approaching the health center and was about to set him on fire when the police arrived and took him into custody as well.<br />
A large crowd gathered outside the police station where the five were being held. A religious leader addressed the mob, saying all homosexuals should be driven out of Mtwapa, and another speaker encouraged the mob to not bother bringing homosexuals to the police but rather to take the law into its own hands, witnesses said. Other speakers said that homosexuals had appeared in Mtwapa when KEMRI opened its offices there. Smaller groups reportedly went to the homes of other people suspected of being gay and threatened them.
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<p align="left">Local sources told Human Rights Watch that the mob attacks appeared planned rather than spontaneous.  According to reports received by Human Rights Watch, none of the attackers have been arrested.</p>
<p align="left">Accounts of the attacks and arrests filled the front pages of the next day&#8217;s local and national newspapers.</p>
<p align="left">A mob attacked and severely beat up another KEMRI volunteer on February 13, and the police again took the victim into custody. The same day, a person was beaten up in Mombasa on suspicion of being gay, and a second person was attacked in Mombasa on February 16. Local activists are attempting to determine the condition and whereabouts of those victims.</p>
<p align="left">Sheikh Ali Hussein declared on the radio on February 17 that Muslims would march in Mtwapa on February 19 to protest against homosexuality. Local activists fear the demonstration may extend to mosques along the coast, including in Mombasa.</p>
<p align="left">&#8220;The police need to arrest the attackers and put a halt to what appears to be a coordinated nationwide attack on people perceived to be homosexual,&#8221; Nath said. &#8220;The disruption of lifesaving HIV/AIDS work could mean a public health catastrophe as well as a human rights disaster.&#8221;</p>
<p align="left">The attacks and hate-mongering and the government&#8217;s failure to act have spread fear in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community, Human Rights Watch said. Several people have gone into hiding; others are preparing to flee their homes at a moment&#8217;s notice.</p>
<p align="left">The attacks on the health center risk exacerbating the HIV/AIDS epidemic not only among men who have sex with men, but among all Kenyans.  HIV prevalence in Kenya is more than 16 percent, and more than 1.5 million Kenyans have died from HIV/AIDS-related illness.<br />
Vigilante violence and panic promote an atmosphere in which any discussion of sexuality will be silenced, and vulnerable populations driven underground, Human Rights Watch said. KEMRI&#8217;s Mtwapa offices have been closed since the attacks. There are plans to reopen the center, but KEMRI staff remain nervous about further attacks.
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<p align="left">Although the declared reason for the six men&#8217;s detention was to protect them, news reports said authorities asked the men to submit to forensic examinations to determine if they are homosexual. Five of them refused and the sixth consented and was examined, although no &#8220;evidence&#8221; of homosexuality is reported to have been found. Forensic medical examinations to &#8220;prove&#8221; homosexual conduct are archaic and discredited. If conducted without genuine consent, they may constitute torture or inhuman or degrading treatment, Human Rights Watch said.</p>
<p align="left">Chapter V of the Constitution of Kenya guarantees to all Kenyans the rights to life, liberty, security of person, and privacy (articles 70, 71, and 72); articles 79, 80, and 81 protect individuals&#8217; freedom of expression, association and assembly, and movement. Article 82 protects against discrimination and states that &#8220;no law shall make any provision that is discriminatory either of itself or in its effect.&#8221;</p>
<p align="left">Section 162 of the Kenyan Penal Code punishes &#8220;carnal knowledge&#8230; against the order of nature&#8221; with up to 14 years in prison. This law is a relic of Kenya&#8217;s colonial past, as Human Rights Watch has previously reported. British colonizers imposed laws to control social and sexual conduct, though some political and religious leaders now defend them as part of &#8220;authentic&#8221; culture and tradition.</p>
<p align="left">The Penal Code&#8217;s provisions contravene not only constitutional protections but international human rights standards. Article 2 of the African Charter on Human and People&#8217;s Rights prohibits discrimination on all grounds; articles 3 and 19 secure for all the right to equality; articles 5 and 6 guarantee the right to dignity and liberty; and articles 10 and 11 guarantee freedom of association and assembly.</p>
<p align="left">The United Nations Human Rights Committee, which authoritatively interprets the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR) and evaluates states&#8217; compliance with its provisions, found in the 1994 case of Toonen v. Australia that laws criminalizing consensual homosexual conduct among adults violate the ICCPR&#8217;s protections for private life and against discrimination. Further, article 9 of the ICCPR secures for all the right to liberty, security, and rights against arbitrary detention, and article 7 of the UN Declaration on Human Rights Defenders specifically secures the right to &#8220;develop and discuss new human rights ideas and principles and to advocate their acceptance.&#8221;</p>
<p align="left">The report of the special representative of the secretary-general on human rights defenders to the UN General Assembly specifically identifies human rights defenders from lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex communities as being at particular risk and calls for greater state vigilance in protecting their rights.</p>
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		<title>NHVREI and SafeGuards Project Honor National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Community involvement critical to successful research to find an HIV vaccine 
More than 25 years since HIV was first discovered, the virus continues to devastate families and communities across the country, with African American communities being affected at an alarmingly disproportionate rate...]]></description>
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<p align="left">More than 25 years since HIV was first discovered, the virus continues to devastate families and communities across the country, with African American communities being affected at an alarmingly disproportionate rate. While black men and women made up 13 percent of the U.S. population in 2007,<sup>1</sup> they accounted for more than half of all new HIV/AIDS diagnoses, and nearly half of all Americans living with HIV/AIDS.<sup>2 </sup> These alarming statistics highlight the urgent need for greater efforts on HIV/AIDS prevention and treatment.</p>
<p align="left">During the observance of the National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day on February 7, 2010, <strong>SafeGuards</strong>,<strong> </strong>a partner organization of the<strong> </strong>National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID) HIV Vaccine Research Education Initiative (NHVREI), honors those we have lost to HIV/AIDS, those who are living with the disease, and those who refuse to give up hope that one day we can stop the spread of this pandemic.  NHVREI, an initiative that partners and works with national and local organizations in the U.S., focuses on creating an environment supportive of HIV vaccine research. Through its work with NHVREI, <strong>SafeGuards </strong>conducts community outreach and education to raise awareness of HIV vaccine research and help stem further spread of HIV into communities of color. On this National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, we remember that stopping the spread of HIV/AIDS requires the continued commitment of all communities affected by the epidemic, and we encourage individuals—especially those of color—<strong>to get educated, get tested, get involved and get treated</strong>.<br />
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<p align="left">SafeGuards and the University of Pennsylvania HIV Clinical Trials Unit are hosting two information sessions for people to find out more about local HIV Vaccine research opportunities.  Both sessions are from 4-7pm at 260 S. Broad Street, Suite 1000.  The first is Wednesday, Feb. 3 with another session on Wedenesday Feb. 10.  Free refreshments and HIV Testing are available.  Please call (215) 985-6873 to RSVP or for more information.<br />
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<p align="left">For more information, visit <a href="http://www.bethegeneration.nih.gov/"><font color="#800080">http://bethegeneration.nih.gov</font></a>.<br />
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<p align="left">NHVREI Partners:<br />
<span />AIDS Alabama (Birmingham, AL)<br />
AIDS Foundation of Chicago<br />
AIDS Project of the East Bay (Oakland, CA)<br />
AIDS Project Los Angeles<br />
The DC Center<br />
Entre Hermanos (Seattle)<br />
Gay City Health Project (Seattle)<br />
Gay Men of African Descent (New York)<br />
Latino Health Institute (Boston)<br />
MOCHA Center (Rochester, NY)<br />
Multicultural AIDS Coalition (Boston)<br />
Planned Parenthood of Middle and East Tennessee<br />
SafeGuards Project / LGBT Health Resource Center (Philadelphia)<br />
San Francisco AIDS Foundation<br />
SisterLove, Inc. (Atlanta)<br />
Us Helping Us (Washington)<br />
AIDS Action Foundation (National)<br />
AIDS Alliance for Children, Youth and Families (National)<br />
National AIDS Education Services for Minorities (National)<br />
National Alliance of State and Territorial AIDS Directors (National)<br />
National Minority AIDS Council (National)</p>
<p><u>About NHVREI</u><br />
The NIAID HIV Vaccine Research Education Initiative (NHVREI) was formed to create an environment in which HIV affected communities and individuals are more aware, educated, and supportive of HIV vaccine research and have more positive attitudes towards clinical trial volunteerism. The Initiative is supported by the Division of AIDS (DAIDS) of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID) at the National Institutes of Health (NIH), under Contract No. HHSN266200600023T. To learn more about or to support HIV vaccine research, visit: <a href="http://bethegeneration.nih.gov/"><font face="Times New Roman">http://bethegeneration.nih.gov</font></a>.<br />
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<p align="left">1.        U.S. Census Bureau. 2004. Projected population of the United States, by race and Hispanic origin, 2000 to 2050. <a href="http://niaid.pr-optout.com/Url.aspx?521095x149850x391057"><em>U.S. Interim Projections by Age, Sex, Race and Hispanic Origin: 2000–2050</em></a>, Table 1a. <br />
2.        Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). 2009. <a href="http://niaid.pr-optout.com/Url.aspx?521095x149849x542063"><em>HIV/AIDS Surveillance Report, 2007</em></a>. Vol. 19. Atlanta: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, pp. 12, 21. 
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		<title>&#8220;The Adams.&#8221; A New Dating Column by Angel Hardy</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I remember my first time hearing about Adam4Adam. I was a sophomore in college and as naïve as Rose Nylund...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3">I remember my first time hearing about Adam4Adam. I was a sophomore in college and as naïve as Rose Nylund. I didn’t know a single thing about the internet <s>fucking</s> &#8220;dating&#8221; culture and if I did I would’ve exited stage left – way left. I only had one sexual partner at the time; my first boyfriend, &#8220;<strong><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Nolan</span></strong>&#8220;. He was pretty much my first everything. He was my first kiss, my first jerk-off session, and my first bottoming. After we broke up, I eventually met someone who would execute my first real orgasm. Nevertheless, I still felt like the biggest late bloomer in the Delaware Valley! I knew it was time for me to get out there; especially when there were club kids younger than me power-bottoming beyond my league. I wanted to make a connection somehow with somebody who would share the same desires I had (still waiting… by the way).</font></span><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3" /></span></font></span><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"></p>
<p align="left">&#8220;Just try it. Everybody’s doing it,&#8221; a friend of a friend suggested to me. The splendors of queer peer pressure, it can easily lead to other risky trends like: ecstasy, snuff porn or worst – Madonna’s Hard Candy. To be honest, I really did not know what to expect. I just wanted to find a guy and date him. Oh, if it were only that simple. What seemed like something I would causally get into for just a couple of months came to be synonymous with my dating and sex life. I had sadly turned into another gay male statistic – I was now an &#8220;Adam&#8221;. Over the years, the online exchanges were more absurd as the idealism of establishing a &#8220;first date&#8221; was downright laughable. When a guy was present and accounted for, the profile I kept would go inactive for months. As my account went into a state of remission, I could sense it patiently waiting for the demise of another shot at romance. It was only a matter of time before I would log back on, starting up ridiculous rapports with &#8220;Mattieboi1684&#8243; or &#8220;HungNLoaded32&#8243; again.</p>
<p align="left">Communicating with men online was as effortless as ordering Chinese takeout. The pursuit of Dick-Lo Mein was as hassle free and convenient as ever. Most men I talk to have admitted how they find the online interaction more simplistic and alluring than going into a bar for the next big thrill. You can create your own online alter ego and be more confident, more reckless and more straight-forward about what you want. We as a gender don’t have the patience or competence to really persuade another man into sleeping with us. Nowadays, guys don’t even attempt a friendly ice breaker towards the really hot guy at the Brew Ha Ha, when they can easily stalk him later on Grindr. Are we so desensitized to sex that it has become the instant step &#8220;B&#8221; after step &#8220;A&#8221; rather than the momentous experience that it used to be?</p>
<p align="left">When the expression: &#8220;horny top here, want to fuck?&#8221; became the most common approach for a potential mate-date-whatchamacallit to greet me, I knew my mingling with the sinister &#8220;Adams&#8221; had gone too far. If I’m really going to spend the next hour and a half with your dick inside me then I want to know the real you. Not all of you, but enough to say: &#8220;Wow, he tops like a linebacker and he’s a Chuck Norris aficionado!&#8221; To me, a phallus is just a phallus (yes, size queens, I said it!). The best left impressions are the genuine and personal ones, not the over-the-top sexual ones… well if you play your cards right, it could possibly be both.</p>
<p align="left">So the elephant in the room isn’t really being ignored anymore. Eighty-nine percent of Philadelphia’s gay male population is – or were – an &#8220;Adam&#8221;. Some are sane, most are extremely fucked up, and all are generally looking for the same sweet deal: a connection. Perhaps the whole online craze puts everything in perspective. A culture that used to be subjected to discreet rendezvous at bathhouses and secluded meet-ups at piers can now freely log on and hope their fantasies will be requited within ten minutes flat. It’s another step of integrating into a more mainstream society and fitting into the westernized, easy access standards. As for me, I’m no longer an &#8220;Adam&#8221;. I got so bored of being bored by a website that generally bored me. It was time to interact with real men at real places. Sure the outcome will probably be the same; however, I’m more willing to take that chance now more than ever. That’s what makes the City of Brotherly Love sort of whimsical. For a town that can seem too overcrowded and redundant, it knows how to surprise you every once in a while. Who knows? We might even cross paths with one another and interact just as fabulously as our online counterparts would.</p>
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<p align="left"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3">This column appears on </font><a href="http://www.phillygaycalendar.com/"><font size="3">www.Phillygaycalendar.com</font></a> </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /><span class="small1" /><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">Angel Hardy is a Philadelphia-based freelance writer and the author of the column &#8220;The Black Book&#8221;. When he&#8217;s not saving the world as a proud employee for über-queer non-profits; Education Justice Coalition/University of Penn and SafeGuards, our pint-size protagonist writes about his personal-accounts with sex, dating, romance and &#8220;love&#8221; within the Philadelphia gayborhood. You can reach him at: <a href="mailto:phillyblackbook@gmail.com">phillyblackbook@gmail.com</a>.</span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" /></font></span></font><font size="3"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"> </span></font><font size="3"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'"></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Philadelphia LGBT Complete Count Census Committee invites you to: 

LGBT Communities &#038; the 2010 Census:

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><font face="Arial" /><font color="#0082bf" size="4">The Philadelphia LGBT Complete Count Census Committee invites you to: </font><br />
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<font face="Arial" color="#0082bf">LGBT Communities &#038; the 2010 Census:</font></strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><br />
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A Community Presentation by Dr. Gary Gates</font><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial" color="#0082bf" size="4"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /><font face="Arial" color="#0082bf" size="4" /><font face="Times New Roman" size="3" /></font><font face="Arial" color="#0082bf" size="4"></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"></p>
<p align="left"><font face="Arial" size="4"><strong>Monday, December 7, 2009<br />
6-8 PM</strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font><font face="Arial" size="4"><strong><br />
William Way LGBT Community Center</strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font><font face="Arial" size="4"><strong><br />
1315 Spruce Street – Philadelphia Room</strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p>
<p></font><font face="Arial" size="2"><strong>The 2010 U.S. Census will count same-sex couples for only the 2<sup>nd</sup> time in our nation’s history.  In the 2000 U.S. Census, nearly 1 million people identified themselves as same-sex couples, which provided the first “count” of members of our communities and gave a glimpse of the economic impact of same-sex couples within the larger LGBT community.</strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font><br />
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Come hear plans for the 2010 Census, learn about how the Census and the American Community Survey uses data on same-sex couples, and find why an accurate count is important to LGBT communities.</strong></font><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial"><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial" /><font face="Arial" /></font><font face="Arial"></font><font face="Arial"></p>
<p align="left"><strong><font face="Arial" size="1">Gary Gates serves as the Williams Distinguished Scholar at the Charles R. Williams Institute on Sexual Orientation Law and Public Policy. He co-authored <em>The Gay and Lesbian Atlas </em>and is a recognized expert on the geography and demography of LGBT populations.</font></strong></p>
<p></font><font face="Arial">For more information about the<br />
2010 U.S. Census and LGBT Communities,<br />
call the Office of LGBT Affairs at 215-686-2194, or visit </font><font color="#0000ff" size="3"><u><br />
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